Never Work Another Day in Your Life: Ways to Start Thriving in Your 9-5 Job

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A lot of us have to work for a living. Brilliant insight, I know. And some of us enjoy it, while some of us—not so much. So if you’re one of the lucky ones who loves every minute of their job—read no further. Or better yet, go ahead and read on and then send the post to a friend who needs it. [Read more…]

Is Your Job Killing Your Soul?

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Are you feeling depleted every time you think of going to work? Do you dread Monday mornings? Find yourself having a hard time getting up in the morning? Your job is probably the culprit. From relationships that make you feel beaten, to too much work in too little time, sometimes it can feel like you’re selling your soul for a paycheck. [Read more…]

What To Do When You Hate Your Job

 

hate-your-job.gif.pagespeed.ce.2rhR1mmd6vAs I was considering the topic of this post, I decided to do a little research on how many people are unhappy in their jobs. And boy, was I in for a shock. The statistics say that 70% of Americans are unhappy with their jobs. (If you’re reading from another country, that statistic is probably lower. It’s a well-established fact that Americans (U.S.) have to work longer hours and get less vacation than employees in other countries.)

So a lot of people in the U. S. hate their jobs—or at the very least don’t love them. If you think about that, it’s pretty sad, since we spend about 2000 hours (or more) every year working at said jobs. [Read more…]

What To Do When Your Co-Worker is Driving You Nuts

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I’ve been coaching people in the workplace for 14 years now. And as a workplace coach I get the opportunity to listen to a lot of stories of frustration and woe. Invariably these stories are about conflict that my client is having with another person they work with. And of course, it’s always the fault of the other insensitive, inconsiderate, incompetent—or any other in-word that you’d prefer. Of course as a good coach should do, I always listen carefully to the story. And then comes the expectant pause in which I am expected to utter pearls of wisdom. And I do—naturally.

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Know Who You’re Really Having the Conversation With…

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I just finished typing the title to this post and the former English teacher in me(many, many jobs ago) cringed at at a sentence ending with a preposition. So if you’re one of those proper grammar types, we can go with “Know With Whom You’re Really Having the Conversation.” It sounds stodgy but it is grammatically sound. ( I think I need to get out more—I’m starting to have conversations with myself.)

Conversations With Others Grow Relationships—Or Not

But I digress…Back to conversations with OTHERS. It is through conversations that we either grow our relationship with another or diminish it. Of course, we mostly want to have better relationships with others. And if we don’t we’re probably not going to have conversations with them anyway. I’ve been thinking about how sometimes we end up in the middle of a conversation and realize that we’re really talking to someone from our past. [Read more…]

A Sure Fire Way to Improve Your Difficult Work Relationships–Part 2

A Sure Fire Way to Improve Difficult Work Relationships

The Most Important Relationship in Your Life

I’ve been thinking a lot about relationships lately—not surprising since I am a work relationship coach. And I’ve taken a lot of time lately in between marathon sessions on the internet to think about relationships and what could make them better for people.

I’ve come to the conclusion that most of us have relationship breakdowns because we are not in touch with who we are and are oblivious to what we bring to our relationships with others.

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The More Real You Get…

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As you have probably figured out by now, the focus of my coaching is on relationships. Relationships with others, the relationship with yourself. I believe that it’s wise and productive to be intentional about what you want to create in your relationships. And I like to practice what I preach. [Read more…]

Small Things Make a Difference

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Last week I attended a baseball game for our local team. It was a great night out for our family, filled with all the stuff that says hometown and wholesome family activities. And to finish the night off there were fireworks—what else?

The Monkee Swing

While I was watching the game I found myself watching the people more than the game, especially since the Fightin’ Phils couldn’t buy a run: they lost 6-0. Every so often a guy in a team sweat shirt would position himself at the bottom of the bleachers where we were sitting. Without a word, he would begin to do a double-arm motion that I had seen lots of people doing at the park. It looks a little like the Monkees used to do—if you remember back that far. After a few minutes of this action, most people in the bleachers were following suit and pretty soon most of the crowd was involved. The guy was totally serious about this –really into it. And he didn’t seem to care whether anyone else did it or not. He was doing his thing. [Read more…]